Coach Evans, Master in Taekwondo, discusses life and lessons he has learned through his years of training and interacting with other human beings.
The Olympics have been all over the TV and news outlets over the past several weeks. It got me thinking about all the past students I've had who were "Superstars" in martial arts.
Let me start out by saying that I do not teach students to "win" at tournaments. As some martial artists even require that their students go to tournaments to be considered for higher rank, I have not, do not, will not. I do suggest they give it a try to see if it's something that they like, however, if they decide to never compete, I don't think anything about it.
There is only one person that I really compete against: ME. It was always fun to see how I would do at a tournament, but it's not really a complete demonstration of all the hard work I've put into something.
So Olympics. Hundreds of athletes from all over the world, gathering to each compete in their specific skill set to see who is the "best". But it doesn't take into account that their "best" one day is not...
I'll start with a quick story from my life in martial arts:
When I was 12, I was already a Sr. 2nd degree black belt in Taekwondo. I had been practicing TKD for at least 5 years non-stop. 3 days per week. I had to wait at my rank for longer than normal due to age requirements. With no testing in the foreseeable future, I felt bored. I typically didn't have to try hard to "beat" the other kids in my classes and I didn't get corrected much for anything. In my forms, I was good enough to not get "fixed". I constantly got the, "Great! Now sit down so the next kid can give it a try!" I WAS BORED!
My 12 month membership was just a couple months away. I knew that as soon as it hit, I was done. No more TKD. What was the point, anyway. I obviously was the best I could be.
Then my instructor noticed the boredom in me from just going through the motions. He asked me to come to the Teen/Adult class one day. I...
If you've ever seen an argument on Facebook or even real life, "lack of ownership" was probably to blame.
Ownership is taking responsibility for our lives. There is an inexhaustible amount of topics we could discuss, but here are some quick ones that come to mind.
Actions: It has got to be #1. No one makes me do anything....ever! All of my actions are completely up to me. Others can suggest, try to force, or threaten, but I still choose to take any action (or inaction) I do.
I hear time and time again how upset someone is on Social Media. "It ruined my whole week!" Well guess what, even if you did nothing to warrant an argument or beratement on Social Media, it was your choice to open the app, scroll along and allow yourself to be a part of whatever upset you. Own your choice. It's your fault you are upset. If you don't want to feel that way, don't get on Social Media! I'll take ownership of my actions.
I'm not the biggest fan of "New Year's Resolutions" in my own life as I think that resolutions should be done all throughout the year. But!!! There is no better time to "start" resolutions than the New Year.
Resolutions are NOT GOALS. A goal is accomplish-able. Resolutions are firm decisions to do or not do something. So in my opinion, resolutions are more like habits than goals. And we all know that habits are made by repeating them on a daily basis.
When I help my students try to accomplish resolutions or even goals, the main problem that seems to come up is setting TOO MANY resolutions. To make a habit, you need to set just a couple resolutions. If you set 10, you will not get closer to a single one of them!
I tend to lean toward what my wife says when helping women as a life coach: "Add 1 thing into your life that will help transform it into the life you want. And take 1 thing out of your life that no longer serves you."