Who do you want to be? Not a simple question. You can be nice, respectful, caring, a jerk. Anything.
When we're young, we are typically told what to be. "Be nice." "Be a hard worker." "Be obedient." (Incase you don't know me well, I HATE that word!)
The thing is, you can choose to be whoever you want to be! It doesn't matter if you are 10 years old or 100. You have the choice. You are the ONLY one who has the choice. If you want to be kind, then decide that you are kind and live that way. If you want to be a jerk, then own it and live it. (Though we all wish you wouldn't, it is still your decision.)
So how do we decide who we want to be?
First, list the qualities that you want to have and are important for you. Kind, respectful, caring, knowledgeable, strong, courageous, the list could go on forever.
Second, BE THAT TYPE OF PERSON!
If we are lucky enough to have more time on this planet, then we know that are "life goals" will change here and there, but that's okay. Because we can always just pick up from there.
Try not to worry about the "slip ups". If you are trying to be a patient person but lose your cool with your kids or that guy that cut you off just to turn into the grocery store, don't sweat it. Just pick up from that point and keep "being" the person you want to be.
If you are a parent, ask your kids who they want to be. Then when they mess up, kindly remind them of who they said they want to be. That puts the ball in their court. It's up to them to see how they are acting and how they are going to "get back on track".
One of the hardest things about being a parent is coming to the realization that you have almost NO control of who your child will become. I have 3 kids and that scares the crap out of me! I love them and want them to have a great life, but it's their life! I just get to try to steer them in the way I think they should and want to go. Then I have to sit back and watch when they make "mistakes" that hurt them and lead them down paths that I "think" they shouldn't go down.
If you're a kid, don't be offended when your parents is trying to help you be the person you want to be. YOU DECIDED IT. Live it.
In the end, we all just have to decide for ourselves who we want to be. Don't let others tell or convince you to be someone you aren't.
It's your life. Live it!